Planning your own death | Death Land #4

Planning your own death | Death Land #4

What does it mean to have a good death? Leah Green meets with Aly Dickinson, an end-of-life doula. Aly helps clients to plan what they want to happen at the end of their lives, and she accompanies them as they transition from life to death. She helps Leah draw up a death plan, and takes her to a death cafe, where strangers discuss dying over tea and cake

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  1. What struck me is how the younger man had approached death several times on his "conveyor belt", and that in each case his fear became greater upon returning. I am wondering about how to mitigate the fear response of the amygdala so that experiencing the approach of death is not terrifying. I suppose that imagining that and reinforcing the fear response is part of what makes this worse, and that perhaps something such as mindfulness meditation could be of assistance. There is also the work that has been done in recent years with classic hallucinogens in a controlled environment which seems to have been valuable for many. One of the great pities is that this form of treatment is only legal in a few places in the world, (e.g. The Netherlands), as a treatment that helps people approach trauma – death, PTSD, et cetera – from a better frame is something almost all of us could benefit from.

  2. I work at a will writing firm and its weird how acclimated I am to death, because I'm around and talking about it every day – remember when I talk to people who don't work in the death industry!

  3. Let's face it: life is an aberration in the universe. For one cosmologically insignificant period of time we lived, breathed and loved. We will pass, our species will pass, all life will pass on this Earth. Who knows if life exists elsewhere in the universe? No one.

  4. Ive been in surgery (one several hours) and I dont remember anything except the longer one. I just keep thinking over and over that would be the best way to die — to just essentially get euthenised. There is a quiet, calm nothing that you never wake up from. Our time on earth is to live; our time after life is to not. That is why we should appreciate every day we have.

  5. I was freed of my fear of death after being at the bedside of 3 beloved family members. All 3 having gone through different types of cancer. I took care of my Mother and my husband at home until their deaths in my arms. There was nothing scary about it. Total peace and even smiles upon there faces as they passed. No more pain and suffering. It was so amazingly quiet and peaceful as they left this world. I no longer fear my death. In fact I want to give my time to Hospice care to sit with families and their dying loved ones.

  6. Great series and much appreciated for those who've experienced death anxiety. What helped me the most was learning that it's possible NOT to be afraid. If it's possible for others, it must be possible for me.

  7. It's rather strange that this should pop up as I have been anxiously thinking recently about my own death (for no apparent reason). My wife died some years ago from cancer and although her death was peaceful in the end mainly thanks to her nurses and medical staff, it was none the less slow, painful and emotionally traumatic for her. I guess that is my fear not the actual dying part but how lead up to death will play out. I know I should try and forget about it and deal with it when it happens, if only my mind would let me.

  8. I wish death doula was something that existed in Canada. I’ve worked palliative care off and on for many of 13 years and I am like this woman I find most of the experiences as beautiful. I have provided death care for many working in hospital. But there’s something so much more special about being out of hospital and sage and a peaceful passing without machines and all that! This would be my career passion if I could find it locally! Love and sunshine to all ❤️☀️

  9. Not afraid of death, only the pain and process, but after I'm gone either I'll be in a better place or not. Not much I can do about it, but I do think that we have a soul or something that goes on, but won't know for sure til I'm gone 🙂

  10. Wow my severe anxiety has a name. Death anxiety. I think about dying all the time I'm talking many times an hour. It's very crippling. I'm so glad to know that this has a name and that other people suffer from Death anxiety I had no idea. Thank you so much for making these videos I am the kind of person that feels death should be out in the open. there should be loved ones around us when we die I am for physician-assisted dying. And I think having a death doula is an amazing gift to give oneself. Again thank you for making this video it really was incredibly meaningful for me

  11. Hebrews 2:14-15
    14 Since the children have flesh and blood,he too shared in their humanity so that by his death he might break the power of him who holds the power of death—that is, the devil— 15 and free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death.

  12. "these are things you want to think about because if you don't, something is going to happen regardless and it may not be the thing that you want. And so, I'm definitely getting into the mindset of death as something to think about, death as something to plan for and death as something to be open to "

  13. people scared of death: would you rather know how or when you will die? would that make your anxiety worse or would it help you accept it and live your life to its fullest?

  14. 8.08 sounds a lot like what I experienced when I had very low blood pressure in hospital and passed out. It's not the same as dying so fear not. It was a horrible experience for me also and seemed to last a long time and it felt like I was aware the whole time. Again this was fainting and not a near death experience.

  15. This is a great article, and I plan to use it when the time comes, but what I really think most of us Americans could use and would appreciate would be the planning and execution of SOMEONE ELSE's death. Say a pesky billionaire or politician. Might just prolong our own miserable petty lives for a few, doncha think?

  16. British humor is so different. '' Makes me want to go out and get ice-cream '' don't think of death as a lonely thing. Most people come in this world alone and leave it alone.

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